Sex Tips During Pregnancy

In some cultures, having sex during pregnancy is forbidden. However, medically, there is no harm in making love during pregnancy especially when there are no complications associated with the pregnancy. Many will opt not to have sex during pregnancy due to self consciousness and the thought of making love in the presence of their unborn children.

Many will have different reasons to justify why it is not right. But, during pregnancy couples need to know that it is perfectly alright and the following are top things to be kept in mind.

1. No harm can come to the baby through sex because the baby is protected by amniotic fluid as well as a wall of mucus that seals the cervix to keep away all possible infections. However, it is important for those with difficult pregnancies to check with their doctor for advice.

2. During pregnancy, women will have elevated libido. However, this will vary from woman to woman. In the first trimester, the sex drive will be low due to nausea caused by morning sickness as well as affected mood due to hormonal changes. During the second trimester, many women have the highest sex drive.

3. Men have the power to change the mood of women during pregnancy. Understanding and love will show caring and women will be more responsive. Therefore, regarding sex, avoiding simple conflict will help during this time.

4. Although some men will not want to have sex with pregnant women, many men will find their pregnant partners pretty attractive. Men have to rise to the occasion for success. Talking to a doctor about it will shed light.

5. Sex positions during pregnancy can make all the difference. There are good resources available online that can guide on positions that will not cause discomfort to women.

6. Sex has the power to induce labour and many times, women who are late on delivery can be advised to have sex. Having said this, it is important to follow your heart during pregnancy and do what you feel right to suit you and your partner. Making love after all is more than sex.

Film Noir Influence in The Virgin Suicides

Teenage suicide was not unheard of before the nineteen-nineties, but its growing instances during this period led people to acknowledge the problem. Schools even started publishing materials to educate students and parents about the phenomena. The Virgin Suicides confronts this delicate topic straightforward. Sofia Coppola blends elements of her own style with those of classic film noir to show how these young individuals become so alienated in a world they barely know or understand. Through the eyes of five sheltered teenage girls, Coppola opens up a dark universe of isolation.

From the start of the film, it is acknowledged that the five Lisbon girls all died before they made it to adulthood. A small group of boys, now men, from the Lisbon’s neighborhood have never forgotten about the mysterious sisters whom they have never come to completely figure out. One of the men narrates the film and informs the viewer that he and his friends still gather at every high school reunion and birthday party to discuss the fate of the Lisbon girls.

The film then flashes back to their childhood circa 1975, and introduces the girls as they get out of their family’s station wagon. Cecilia is the youngest at 13, preceded by Lux, Bonnie, Mary, and Therese whom were all one year older than another. All of the girls seem so young, innocent, and beautiful. However, it is soon revealed that Cecilia has just gotten out of the hospital after an attempted suicide.

Cecilia begins seeing a therapist who recommends that the strict Lisbon’s allow their daughters to have a party to cheer the girls up and enable them to interact with boys and girls their own age. Cecilia is upset by a group of her peers making fun of a child with Down syndrome. She feels that she will never really belong to society either, and so she runs upstairs and jumps from her window. Her second attempt at suicide is successful since she lands on a pointed, wrought iron fence. The rest of the film deals with the Lisbon’s struggle to cope with this new reality. In the end, the remaining sisters decide that Cecilia was right about the world being a bleak and lonely place where existence itself is futile, and so they decide to join her by taking their own lives.

Although The Virgin Suicides is by no means a classic film noir, it is undeniable that Coppola was influenced by the ideas that it brings to mind. The mood of some scenes, for example, has parallels with that of film noir. After all, Coppola intends to bring the audience to the bizarre and heavy world in which these doomed girls live. Both of the suicide scenes and the scene when Trip leaves Lux in the middle of the football field after having sex with her evoke a sense of uneasiness and inconceivability that is definitely characteristic of film noir. The Virgin Suicides is also influenced by noir themes and style. The film is primarily about these teenage girls feeling separated from the crowd, cooped up in the half-reality that was their home. Everything about the Lisbon house is drab and gray. There is never direct sunlight, or high-key lighting inside the Lisbon home. It is as if the girls are covered in cobwebs like little china dolls being preserved in a basement somewhere. Coppola uses light throughout the film to symbolize life and change, like the cuts to outdoor time-lapsed shots with the sun glowing in the background. This also shows that things outside are changing, but the Lisbon girls are forced to remain stagnant in their rooms.

The Virgin Suicides also boasts a particularly edgy score for the time period it was meant to represent. Track titles include “Cemetery Party”, “Dirty Trip”, and “Bathroom Girl.” These are songs Mrs. Lisbon would most definitely not allow her children to listen to. Coppola even makes a point of this by showing Lux burning all of her rock CD’s at the hands of her mother. This represents the authority the girls’ parents still have over their lives, but the score still playing throughout the movie represents their struggle to make a place for themselves. Perhaps the girls would have made it and they were simply being suffocated. More likely, however, is that the girls saw no hope in living for a future they saw as lonely, awkward, and unfulfilling.

The Virgin Suicides also departs from noir, and more modern filmmaking conventions are noticed. Lux Lisbon is not the classic femme fatale of film noir. She knows her sex appeal and that she can use it to her advantage, yet she is not trying to deceive the men she sleeps with. Lux is simply trying to justify what happened with Trip. She had sex with him after their Homecoming dance because she thought he cared about her, and then he just left her asleep on the football field. Lux, being only fifteen years old, was really affected by this. She then reacts by trying to prove to herself that sex means nothing. Then it would be okay if she lost her virginity to Trip for no good reason.

The story of the ill-fated Lisbon sisters needed to be told in a modern context, while the world they live in and the experiences they have are sometimes noir. Therefore, a true infusion of a few different styles and genres were required. Sofia Coppola does a wonderful job of mixing conventions of film noir with her own thematic style in the direction of The Virgin Suicides. The music and lighting of the film are akin to noir, as is the general theme of the film and it’s setting where days blend together and even sex is meaningless. However, none of the sisters quite resemble a classic femme fatale. Also, the boys may be like junior detectives, but they have no ulterior or hidden motives. Their respect and wonderment of the Lisbon sisters is sincere, and that is something that cannot exist in a film noir.

Sex Life During Pregnancy Can Still Be Good

It’s not unusual for a woman to feel ashamed to talk about having sex during pregnancy, with her doctor or friends. Having sexual intimacy and being pregnant shouldn’t make any woman feel unnatural. In order to help you discover more about this sensitive topic, we’ve put together some fundamental answers to commonly asked questions about sexual intercourse and pregnancy.

Let’s cover the matter that all woman having their first newborn would like the answer to. Is sexual intimacy during maternity harmless?

For most women who experience a common pregnancy, free of complications, having sex during this time is completely safe. First of all, the baby is safe by the amniotic sac. The amniotic sac grows and starts to fill, mainly with water, around two weeks after fertilization. The mucus plug actually seals the cervix. In fact, if there are no medical reasons or abnormal problems, you can continue to have sexual intimacy right up until your water breaks. It may not be harmless to have sex when there are any abnormal problems present already, that will adversely affect the baby. A dilated cervix, placenta previa, cervical insufficiency, vaginal bleeding, emission, early labour, or abdominal cramping may all be reasons why a doctor would advise against sex during pregnancy. If you’re unsure about whether or not you can have sexual relations during your pregnancy, just ask your health care provider, nurse or midwife.

Is There Any Type Of Sex I Should Avoid During Pregnancy?

Unless you’ve been told by your personal doctor or midwife that you should avoid sex, you can probably continue your sexual intercourse life normally. There are a couple noteworthy exceptions. The first exclusion would apply if you agree to oral sex from your partner. Tell him not to blow into your vagina. The damaging effect to you or your baby could be an air embolism. This could affect you or just your baby. The other understandable reason of concern is unprotected sexual intimacy with a partner you are not certain, is free from sexually transmitted infections. If you’re not sure your partner has no STIs, then you should always use a condom or abstain from sexual acts altogether. STDs can affect you and your baby, so having sex during pregnancy is too risky to take a chance.

Does Having A Complication Mean Absolutely No sexual relations During Pregnancy?

First off, by no means be afraid to confront your doctor about this question. If you’ve been told that you should refrain from sexual intimacy during pregnancy, ask him to be more specific. Is it really necessary? Does it encompass all intimate acts? Is the health care provider talking about sexual intimacy or just about the effect of an orgasm? Discovering accurately what is allowed and not allowed, will help you feel more relaxed about sex, while you’re pregnant.

Will My Desire For Sex Change During Pregnancy?

Your sex drive may change during pregnancy. Nausea, fatigue and being uncomfortable will unquestionably reduce your desire for sex. Many times though, there’s a feeling of total freedom and a renewed intimacy since there is no worry about getting pregnant anymore. At the same time, your partner’s sex drive may be increasing or decreasing by the pregnancy, so be sure to communicate effectively with him about how you both feel.

Will Different Positions Make Sex More Comfortable For Me During Pregnancy?

Changing sex positions can make you more comfortable during pregnancy. The position of sexual intercourse that was comfortable before pregnancy, is many times no longer comfy while being pregnant. Sometimes a woman never really finds the position where they’re really well-situated, and prefers to have sex by manual stimulation or oral sex.

Will sexual intercourse Feel Different For Me During Pregnancy?

Sex may feel different for you when you’re pregnant. It may feel much better than normal or much less comfortable than before you were pregnant. Another change that you’ll notice, is, your breasts and genitals may become enlarged and more sensitive than before you were pregnant. For some women this leads to a much more pleasurable sensation during sex, but others may experience being more uncomfortable. If you are no longer enjoying sexual intercourse, experiment with your mate to find new ways to love each other.

Is There A Time Up To, That I Can proceed To Have Sex During A Pregnancy?

If you have no pre-existing stipulation and nothing your doctor has restricted you from sexual relations about, there is no reason not to have sex until your water breaks. Having sexual intercourse, that leads to having an orgasm, can often bring on labour. So feel free to have a lot of sexual intimacy with your spouse, right up to the time you have your baby.

Sex during pregnancy can be an embarrassing topic for some women, but there’s no reason to ever feel shameful about finding out how to protect yourself, your baby, and your partner during this time. For more information about your sex life during pregnancy talk to your GP, midwife or contact a branch of the National Childbirth Trust.